I am worried and feel bad so bad for you and what you are going through, and worried about your wife, too.
But...it's her journey and descent into the abyss of alcoholism and you can't do anything about it. You don't have to be held hostage.
I know how it pulls on our heartstrings to see someone hXXl bent on destroying themselves and we can do nothing.
But, we can do something for our children.
Your wife seems to be in meltdown mode and could turn this holiday season into an awful memory for them.
You can be there for them to ensure that it doesn't.