It's hard, isn't it? Just when I think I've let go completely (the divorce is final and everything) I find myself back in the How can I 'help' him mode. This time I caught myself thinking that if I forward a copy of information to his codie GF maybe she'll work on getting XAH to do the right thing.
Ummm, yeah. She can nag him about his responsibilities all she wants, it's not going to make him hear her any better than he heard me or the court. Bleahhhh.
At least we each caught our trains of thought, right? Don't be so hard on yourself. We're working on our own recovery and it takes time to change the way we deal with this too.
