Hi LaFemme,
I can identify with you a lot. I tried and tried and tried again to stay abstinent from alcohol and drugs, but it was usually very shaky, and I could not stay comfortably off cigarettes at all. I have quit everything now, without any support at all, and most of the time, it is effortless. Thing is though, I have known many people who quit their addictions without any support, and they found it relatively easy, because they simply had enough pain and hassle. Many people are like that.