We each have our own path to walk. We each have to do what is right for us. Keep posting, keep reading, keep asking questions! It makes the path less lonely and bumpy.
Have you read the stickies at the top? There is a lot of good info in there. I can't remember if you said you'd been to al-anon or not. That is a great group and a great resource.
Naive said. reality is that alcoholics cannot limit their drinking to two bottles of wine a week. that only gives them the taste for more and once they get a bit of alcohol, they are off and running. Truer words were never spoken. It is a medical fact. The alcohol effects their very brain chemistry. Proceed cautiously - her entire post is true.