Thank you all very much. To answer a couple of points, I am one of only 4 or 5 people this girl speaks to from treatment and we talk on the phone a lot. This is the rub. I don't want to tell her about his attack on me, it seems like it would be detrimental to her recovery. And I don't want to meddle in their marraige. I just want to try and help but am pretty afraid of her husband. Is his controlling behavior normal?