I love it when Naive does this, I really do.
For years I tried to understand wtf was going on with my AH. Years. When I first came here, Naives translations would confuse me. How could he really mean those things? But seriously, it was the only explanation that finally made sense to me.
I had already seen the behavior pattern over and over again and was ready to accept reality.
Now that the mystery is gone, he's so much less..well, mysterious, and more unattractive. Less alluring. More sad to me.
But the best news is that I let go of trying to control him, which has brought me the greatest freedom ever. And to replace that obsessive, constant nagging feelings I had about him-where is he, what is he doing, does he love me?-I have in place that same level of attention and work on my life. I'm creating something satisfying in it's place.