it is harder for them to really throw it back at us as long as when we express what is bugging us we use our phrases with just "I" and no "you". it gets easier the more one consciously does it. hope this helps
Do you mean like having phrased it as....? Actually can you tell me how to rephrase something in that way? I know I did try saying something once such as, "I just can't handle...this just isn't for me..." And he still went off like a bomb.
Anyway - the point of the thread...he made a list about me and on his list was that I have "social issues." And this very topic is what he assigned as "social issues." He decided that I have social issues because I would directly try to talk to him about stuff like this instead of just saying nothing.