I understand that. I had a hard time trying to keep away from XABF#3, but I was conveniently locked up in Atlanta, almost 2 hours away from him, and it gave me time to think.
It takes time. I had to keep reminding the BAD stuff, stop dwelling on the "what if's" and "what he could be". Considering my only relationships were with A's, I finally started really reading and taking in what people were saying about codependency. It's like I was drawn to people who needed "fixing".
I can honestly say, that the time I've spent here, the wisdom I've learned, has helped me tremendously. It's not a quick process, though, but it does work.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy