Originally Posted by
NoAlcoholToday 
The bottom line is, highfunction, he plain doesn't want to stop yet. It is you who wants him to stop and that will never cut it.
One of our moderators said on a thread yesterday "I have never seen anyone here on SR fail if they truly wanted to stop".
This is true for me, too. I have been sober for three months. This time I didn't just want to stop drinking... I wanted to
live sober. . I never before really wanted to live without alcohol and that's why I fought so hard to keep some vague grip on my drinking.
So I'd ask not 'why can't he stop' but 'why doesn't he want to stop'. I didn't want to because I thought life would be boring and dull without alcohol, amongst other reasons.