Originally Posted by Bernadette

And I learned that the fantasy and magical thinking of "If they would only stop drinking they would be awesome!" is a complete and total fallacy, because the alcoholism is merely a symptom, and the hard work they would need to do to recover from that addiction - well, we just cannot predict what they will be like or who they will be or if we will be compatible.

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Yes your ABF may be wonderful except for the booze - but try to accept him 100% for who he is - and that INCLUDES the drinking.