Originally Posted by
yorkiegirl 
"This just sounds like an awful Perfect Storm to me."
If you listen and pay attention to your intuitions, I have a feeling, you already have the answers.
Should you decide to meet up with him, exchange gifts & go to the party, I am totally with Naive. You should have a back-up plan (to leave early & on your own, if need be).
New Year's is still a ways away. I hope you & your son enjoy your time together.
Best to you. I hope your holiday turns out wonderfully (regardless of what your A does or does not do).
I apologize. I should not have posted any "You should" statements. I was trying to delete this message and repost but I can't figure out how to, once I've edited my post. Babyblue's statement beginning, "I would" is much better.
Sorry about that. I'll work on not posting, "You should" statements! One of the things I'm working on for myself is to *not* give advice (and therefore offer others "you should" statements. That's probably the "codie" in me.