My wife's counsillor is strongly of the opinion that my wife is sabotaging her treatment with her objections, and so from that I conclude that I would be helping that sabotage if I was to enable her to leave there early.
I agree. I've heard it all before about rehab too. Likely we all have.
My take? If SHE wants to leave rehab, let her leave rehab, but don't play a part in it. No matter what words she speaks, no matter what comes out of her mouth, her thinking is messed up. Allowing yourself to play a part in that whole scenario is just cowtowing to the addiction. I don't want to sound harsh here but this really is a life or death situation. Take a deeper look into the rationale for allowing her to come home for Christmas. Is Christmas really more important? Or is her recovery more important?
(((hugs))) Sorry you're going through this.