Hello
I agree with you that there are times when yes maybe you should back them up, but sometimes not. I do believe they should be correct in what they are saying and how they approached it. I have at times backed my H up on issues with the kids and at times sat there and at other times left the room. If I have issue with something that may be minor I speak to him about it later when the children are not around. Then we both will come across on a united front later to speak about it with the kids. I am also not in the mood for drama there is enough already.
Sending out hugs