Originally Posted by
highfunction 
.....And my response will likely seem stubborn.
It doesn't seem stubborn to me. How many people would come here, start a thread, and then come back and announce they are going to leave based on a bunch of strangers' opinions? Now that would be weird.
I can only speak for myself, but what I was trying to say to you was not "leave." It was "learn." I know lots of times when I type "let go," people read "leave." That's not what it means. It means you cannot control the other person, you can only control yourself.
To leave or not is a very individual choice, based on individual circumstances. Looking back, I made that choice later than I should have. I believe, had I known more, I would have made better choices at more appropriate times.
All I'm saying is--the more you know, the better. Denial can be very strong, in both alcoholics AND their partners. Wishing it wasn't so, or looking the other way only makes things worse in the end.
L