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Old 12-06-2010, 03:41 PM
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Emotional abuse is sneaky. Because part of the abuse tactics is making you doubt that it really happened, doubt your perception of reality, and adopt the abuser's version of "what really happened."

One of my counselors talked about staying in an abusive relationship as "the slot machine effect": You've invested so much time, and maybe the next time you pull that lever, you'll hit the jackpot. Maybe if you give him just another week (month, year), he will change.

What I've found is that people who want to change will do it. Without prompting, without begging, without nagging.

You might have heard it before, but one thing I've heard at Al-Anon a lot is this: Alcoholism is an elevator that goes down to hell. You decide what floor you're going to get off on.
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