Originally Posted by
RedBaron 
I keep wanting this problem to just go away, and letting her move back would be the easiest way to do that...
Just like to gently point out that this is untrue.
It doesn't make the problem
go away; it
prolongues it.
Prolongues everyone's suffering, especially the kids'.
To get past the fire, you have to walk through it; there simply is no other way to get to the other side. But once you get to the other side, you see it was the shortest, least painful way, in the long run.
All the other shortcuts are fantasies we hold, and lies to ourselves.
Sending encouragement,
CLMI