mmm,
Welcome!! I am also a newbie (I posted my first thread on November 2). I think we are kind of in the same situation. I dated my A for 3 years. I was uncomfortable with his drinking from the very start. I had several conversations with him about this. He never did anything to change. So, I had to make a decision. I decided to break up with him. It was the right decision for me.
t was very hard, and I miss him very much, but I simply could NOT be in a relationship with a man who was UNWILLING to get help for his drinking.
Please listen to what the folks on this forum have to say. You'll get brutal honesty- which is what you need. It's what we all need!
Please keep posting and reading other threads on this forum- I found that reading others' stories was extremely comforting. I felt very isolated in my frustration... but, it turns out that many of the folks on this forum went through very similar situations. Their advice and words of wisdom are priceless gifts.
Thanks!!
craven