For me, it is not so much whether I can have a happy relationship, but whether I am finished having to TRY so much.
Thanks for this Buffalo. It helped me today!
I keep thinking if I could ever take her back, and I keep convincing myself that it's a really bad idea. How do you rebuild trust?
Thanks phineas, exactly, once trust is broken then its very difficult to keep on, alcohol or not.
Also it is about our own boundaries, for instance I have endured sexual, emotional and verbal abuse and would never, NEVER EVER be with someone who is cruel even a single time, or abusive a single time, due to my own history/triggers. Also because in therapy I am learning the meaning of "partnership" and I am a person that would NEVER be sarcastic, abusive or cruel with my family/loved ones and I am starting to believe I deserve the same level of respect I give others... I am learning that basic respect at all times is NOT too much to ask for.