OMGosh BoskerBear, I SO know what you mean! How about my brother, XBFs, and lots of other people I have caretaken?!?! It is crazy to see how much they get taken care of by others. And here's the insane thing: They probably didn't even have to ask!!! They just MENTION what they want or need, or a lot of time just complain about the problem, and POOF! Some codependent has gone and taken care of it for them. I almostzlost my mind being severely codependent. We really need to learn to stop reacting to other people. I have to WORK at not doing for others what they can do themselves. I have to let others figure out their problems and the solutions, on their own. When I try to control their outcomes, I slowly drive myself insane; because my own life is enough for me to handle.