"So basically I said if you are going to drink and call me names, then I can't live that way. I didn't tell him he had to stop, just what I would/wouldn't do. Am I thinking of this wrong? Help me out if you have any thoughts?? "
My thoughts, since you asked
, as long as you put your money where your mouth is and stand behind your word, as difficult as it WILL be, you're heading in the right direction. My ah FOUGHT my detachment and boundaries harder than he's ever fought before. But I stood my ground on my shaky legs and didn't budge. I realized I could only control me; my choices, my reactions, my life. Noone else's.
I wish you strength.
juju