Originally Posted by
FreeingMyself 
So basically I said if you are going to drink and call me names, then I can't live that way. I didn't tell him he had to stop, just what I would/wouldn't do. Am I thinking of this wrong? Help me out if you have any thoughts??
I think that's exactly right. The big question is whether you mean it or not. It seems he is telling you, in no uncertain terms, that he WILL continue to drink and call you names. So, why would you even entertain the idea of reconciliation?
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