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Old 11-29-2010, 05:24 PM
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Wascally Wabbit
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It's about darn time we started standing up for ourselves and REFUSE to allow others to walk all over us, abuse, blame, and drag us into their misery. They can have their misery all to themselves.
I once read an excellent book on setting boundaries. I still refer to it. You might check it out. They refer to boundaries like this.
You live next to a neighbor who is constantly throwing his garbage all over your yard.
You continue to pick up the garbage yourself even though it's their mess.
One day you build a fence. This fence is high enough so that they can not throw the garbage in your yard any more. They have to deal with their own garbage.

The book is:
Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
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