Thank you for the responses. This situation is quite difficult. He keeps hearing that "relapse is part of recovery" and "I have been sober for 15 years but it took being knocked down a bit to figure it out." He is very positive and upbeat right now.
I am sort of frozen. I have so many things going for me and I wonder if this is the person who I can rely on to build a family with.
His family is awesome and I am so close with all of them. Of course I know that shouldn't be part of the picture,but it's there whether I want to admit it or not.
Part of me hopes that because he has so much going for him (tremendous family support, great recovery groups support, getting an education) that he can make it through! I also have big hopes for the medications.