Hello numberseven.
Welcome to SR; and btw you _are_ in the right place
While you wait for more replies to your posts you might want to take a peek at the sticky threads we keep up at the top of this forum's page. Up there are some especially helpful threads along with other resources selected just for friends & family members of alcoholics.
You don't have to face this alone. By coming here and attending Al-Anon I've learned that there is hope. Hearing from others about how they manage under similar circumstances helps me live a much better and less chaotic life. I'm glad you decided to stop by.