Welcome to the SR family!
I am sorry that your family is experiencing the chaos of living with alcoholism. Alcoholism is a family dis-ease. It affects everyone. It is also progressive and gets worse without treatment.
Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed. The permanent (sticky) posts at the top of this page contain some of our stories and loads of wisdom.
Here is a sticky post that contains steps that have helped some of us:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html