Originally Posted by LaTeeDa

The purpose of having relationships with others is to enhance our lives, not to make us whole.

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My job is to live my life to the best of my ability, not to direct others to fulfill my fantasies.

Originally Posted by LaTeeDa

I always wanted someone to lean on, someone I could trust, someone to take care of me. So, I spent my life taking care of others, being trustworthy, letting them lean on me. In my mind, I was earning "my turn." I figured if I did all those things for someone else, they would eventually do them for me. You know, tit for tat and all that.

What I never realized is that I was building up expectations the whole time. That I felt entitled to some care in return for "all I'd done for them." It made me insincere and needy.