Epiphany: perhaps I want him to be "groveling" because it will help me feel some measure of self-worth? That if he acts like I'm valuable to him, I'll feel valuable? I'm going to have to think on that.
I want to tell you how much this helped me tonight SarahG.
Oh, I have some thinking to do on this subject too.
I believe you are on the right track to taking care of yourself Sarah.
It is tough to be furious and supportive at the same time.
This thread has been great!
Beth