What do I say to my children?
I am new to this -- just started going to Al Anon meetings (it is really helping). After 25 year relationship with my AH, he has finally moved out and is not in recovery yet but says he is not drinking. My kids, ages 12 and 14 want me to allow him to come home. Yet, from what I am learning about enabling and MY ROLE in this, that is the worst thing I could allow right now. We have been doing the "move out - move in" thing for the past 6 months. The longest my AH has been able to stay sober is 2 weeks. It has been hell. I want to protect my kids from more hurt but I don't know how to explain to them that this is the best thing for all of us. They are starting to think that I am just being mean. Can you help with the right words?