Hi
itzmessedup 
to Sober Recovery (SR). I am glad you got clean, I am glad you are working a program, and I am glad you have found SR. I hope that soon your Recovery becomes more about you than someone else, in your mind. I believe that even when someone gets clean "for someone else" they are still benefitting themselves. I hope that you can keep focusing on being good to yourself, despite the troubles you are having with your spouse.
Please keep posting and reading here. Some more folks with helpful perspectives will be along here soon.