i've moved 500 miles away and when the thought of picking up the phone entered my mind to wish him a "happy holiday" i went to the same thing...wondering if he is drinking or not...so I put the phone down and didn't call!! thanks for this reminder. I hope some day i can stop even letting that thought into my head, afterall, what difference DOES it make? NONE, absolutely none because my day was lovely and the food was terrific and i was in a safe and sober place surrounded by people that love me and I love them...nothing else really is my business right now. gosh, i hate that my head goes there too!! good for you for catching it!