Thanks naive. I have an appointment with the divorce lawyer, that I spoke with previously, on Tuesday. My Sister and I have written down the questions that I want to ask at the apointment (regarding this as well as if I can start the divorce proceedings when he is out of the country).
nodaybut2today - yes, he was pretty much the same at home as well. drinking, not going out anywhere, except to get his alcohol. I assumed if he was out of this cocoon that he would be forced to get help and take care of himself. I guess he is just creating his own cocoon there and wasting all his savings. I still somewhere inside of me, want to help "fix" him, I guess. need to continue working on myself. Yes, good suggestion - I should tell his friend not to contact me. Not sure if I am there yet.
Takingcharge - thanks. I have no interest in getting back with him (too much anger and trust issues) but just wish he would get better - do wish him the best. I need to work on letting go more.