Originally Posted by
breakingglass 
do you ever get scared that it could happen to you? i wonder, if my AH does stop, will he see me the same way? how different will it be and will it be for the better or for the worst....
I used to worry about it all the time but I looked into it a huge amount and I found that marriages that end when an addict gets sober, usually do so on the instigation of the non-addicted spouse. Seemingly it's very common for the non-addicted partner to have assumed that all marital problems will be solved once their partner is sober. But they commonly find that their problems had less to do with the alcohol/other drugs and more to do with other issues. Once the addiction was removed they realised that their problems were actually about more than that.
Of course it happens both ways, the addict can sober up and realise that the relationship is not working for them sober, but usually it's the other way around.