Welcome to the SR family!
Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed. At the top of each section of this website there are sticky (permanent) posts. These posts contain personal experiences and loads of wisdom.
I have learned a lot by reading the experiences of others in my situation. It really helps to know that I am not alone. I am not the first woman to be in love with an alcoholic, and I am not the first woman to find myself addicted to alcohol.
Hi, I'm known as Pelican and I am a recovering alcoholic.
I am also the recovering ex-partner of a 14 year marriage to an alcoholic.
I am also recovering from my co-dependent traits.
My recovery is multi-dimensional with one common theme:
I am only in control of my choices.
This is my one precious life. I must choose how to live it.
Here is a link to a sticky post that contains excerpts from the book "Under the Influence". It helped me wrap my head around how a normal, loving person can become addicted to a liquid substance and loose control of their life.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
I am also including a link to another sticky. This post shares steps some of us have taken when dealing with our alcoholic loved ones:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html