Iheartsushi, this thread is hitting home for me. I stayed with my A husband for years (14, but who's counting?) We have been separated. I can only imagine the hurt & pain I caused my family (& his) who didn't want me to put myself in a situation of misery. I chose to stay in the insanity. Instead of trying to understand how much my family & his family cared about me, I resented them. I worked so hard to try & prove them wrong, until I could no longer (I guess I hit my bottom).
I had to leave. Today, my husband is in recovery and I too am working on my own recovery.
One day your friend, if she chooses to see, will appreciate that you cared & hurt for her. However, she will have to come to her own realization. I know. That was me.