ala - I just want to acknowledge you for making this decision and your REAL feelings of sadness, pain, and loss. You are making the healthy choice for yourself. He needs to make some serious decisions of his own. I understand how crushing this descision can be. But just because it's the right thing to do, doesn't mean it doesn't hurt....deeply.
You are not a moron, nor stupid. Actually you are loving and courageous.
You can go to alanon.
Wishing you peace.