Hi iheartsushi, and welcome to SR.
I am a recovering codependent and recovering alcoholic/addict.
I also have a 22-year-old daughter who's been involved with an emotionally abusive alcoholic for over a year now.
As much as I love her, I can't live her life for her, or sway the choices she makes.
It's hard to detach when you see the train wreck happening.
My 22-year-old and I have a pretty good relationship in spite of things.
She knows not to bring the drama to my house.
The last time they had a major blowout, and she ended up going back to him, I told her "I love you and my heart hurts to see you settling for less than you deserve."
She knows how I feel. She continues to make the choices she does because she's got to walk her own path just as I have.
If you believe in God or a higher power, put your friend in your prayers. Don't ever underestimate the power of prayer.
