Even little things like not getting the sodas speak volumes.Giving him the dignity of his own recovery..priceless.We have all been there and done the hard, but necissary things you are doing.It is not fun.But at the same time, a little of your own dignity comes back when we quit playing nursemaid to our addicted children..it can feel pretty good to say no (in a loving way!)Often, THEY regain respect for us as well.