PhoenixTheBird, first please know I am not saying this in judgment. This is just about my experience, not comparing myself to anyone else or saying my HP is right and someone elses isnt. But what I've learned since getting a higher power, is that letting go and letting God is not a struggle when mastered. For me, that meant developing a stronger relationship with my HP. Once I did that, letting go was so much easier. It didn't hurt less like one might expect though. Strangely enough, the hurt was still as intense, but the obsessiveness and desperation were not. To me, that is the essence of letting go and letting God
