Going through this with my 12 and 14-yr old daughters. Kind of dragging on because my STBXAW is fighting the divorce, but only just enough to make things difficult. Just starting to get my self-esteem and sanity back. Have plenty of support from my sister and my parents, which has been a great help. My dad pointed out the process of divorce is 'temporary' in the time of your life, even though it may not seem like it at the time and that the process of making decisions becomes easier when alcohol is not involved.