I agree...I loved Naive's translations earlier!
I have been in your shoes many, many times. I just broke up with my XABF a few days ago, for possibly the millionth time. This time, though, there is no love left. I've spent 3 years trying to make things work...fighting over stuff like frequency of phone calls, etc. And, now I FINALLY realize that the unsolveable problem between us is, and always has been, that we disagree on the major issue of his drinking. He wants to drink and I don't want a partner who is an active alcoholic. I have been looking at exactly what I "love" or "loved" about him and can't come up with much, really.
Did I love the way he treated me? NO
Did I love the anxiety I felt most of the time? NO
Did I love the way we communicated? NO
etc, etc...basically, I want a equal, real partner who is there for me in all ways. Someone who is growing and working on themselves, because they want to. Because that's how they look at life also. I'm guessing you want more in a partner too, or you wouldn't be here posting. I am sorry you're hurting, but I think you can do better!!