My dad totally ignored me. He was a drinker though, and the son of a drinker. But the strange thing is he just did not know how his ignoring me affected me. I don't hold this against him, I honestly in his case know that he just thought girls should be raised by their mothers. I can't feel anything but sadness about what he missed. In his way I think he loved me, he was just incapable of emotion. When a person invalidates me because of their own strong stubborn will I do feel it more in a negative way, the outcome is the same, feeling abandoned but the feelings are much different.