sassy,
Is there a police record or hospital record of what happened at the marina? If there is, go get it. Start collecting your own evidence. Your mother is not in this marriage and if she lived this way, I do not understand why she would want you to continue.
It is not boredom with your AH, he is seriously ill and does not want to get well.
Please start a journal and keep records of these episodes of his, you will need them.
what is the citizenship of your children? are they americans? if so, i think he would not be able to take them out of the country without your consent.
just throwing out ideas here.
alcoholics talk alot, my ex threatened me alot, but when it came down to it, he showed up at court hungover and smelling like he just smoked a rock of crack.
i know it is scary when he says about going to germany with the kids, but there are all kinds of legal and practical things that would have to be done first, and he is not in the frame of mind to follow up on any of that.
you are not crazy. this is normal for an alcoholic though.
alanon will help you. get some legal advice. maybe a free consultation?
you can do this, you are scared, but still got all your marbles.
you will do this for the kids.
Beth