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Old 11-17-2010, 07:30 AM
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Pelican
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Thanks for the update!

You don't have to solve the Christmas gift giving by 3 p.m. today, right?

I can see your post filled with worry for other peoples reactions and feelings.

What is the worst thing that will happen at Christmas?

Son doesn't get anything for Sister?
Sister gets mad? Who will she get mad at?
What is your responsibility in that situation?

I am a rescuer. I don't like to see my children get their feelings hurt. I guess that is a normal mom instinct.
However, I also don't want to shelter my children from the consequences of their choices. I learned most of my life lessons the hard way, so I am going to try and let my children learn their own lessons.

Experience is a valuable teacher!

It does get better! I promise!

I have learned to embrace uncertainty in my recovery. In the past, I would project outcomes based on my previous experiences. Then I would try to control the outcomes by forcing my will into situations. My limited thinking was based on my past. I was closing my mind to the unknown possibilities.

In recovery, I am learning to be patient. More will be revealed. I am learning my HP (higher power) has options/solutions I haven't considered. If I let go and let my HP take control, I am often pleasantly surprised at what is revealed.

Wishing you peace on your journey!
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