I didn't take it that way at all L2L. In fact, I think you reinforced my point with your very personal and painful share. And I think sometimes we, as adults, use the "kids are resilient" line as a way to minimize how our own selfish choices impact our children. I know I did, and it's one of the most difficult aspects of my history with the alcoholic to deal with. If there was one thing I could have a do-over on, it would be how I parented my children in their early years, before I found recovery. Those wrongs can never be undone, no matter how many rights I do now.
L