Instead, I think the prospect of exposing their empty void is so profoundly scary that they would rather do anything to protect the inner self including hurting their loved ones. This is all done at a relatively subconscious level and I am not implying that they deliberately intend to hurt anyone.
So I recommend you dont try to get him to change. It will never work.
We are not bad people per se.
Thanks, NoA! Some things you said just resonated with me.
peace