Craven,
I do not have any advice regarding the message, other than to keep examining yourself to see what it is you are trying to accomplish with it. What feelings do you have that you are trying to have fulfilled? Also, see if there is anything that you are trying to control in order to make your life easier or happier. And, what potentials of your own might require more of your energies?
I am so glad you are going to Al-Anon.
