"poor, poor alkie who needs everyone to understand him and focus on his recovery; and the non-alkie needs to sweep all the misbehavior under the rug and be 'understanding' and put the alkie's feelings first by ignoring ones own feelings of anger, contempt, outrage, sense of fairness, etc... so as the poor alkie isn't burdened by the non-alkie's problems too."
I did not get this from reading the big book at all. I guess it's an individual thing. I think it's great you're reading it FourMaggie. What a positive way you are working and moving forward with your life. Good for you!!!