hello and welcome no alcohol today-
as a codie, i would be delighted if my alcoholic got into recovery. note, i said got into recovery versus got sober, because these are two different things.
please consider getting into an AA group on-line, or at least reading the big book on-line. being successful in quitting drinking is not just not drinking, it's a fundamental reversal. read the 12 steps and i would imagine there would be a lot of support for you over in the 12-step forums here at SR.
as for your wife, the most important things right now is your recovery. because without that, you probably won't have a wife anymore. put that first, keep your side of the street clean, make your amends to her for the damage done.
and hey, good luck! you are more than welcome over here with us. we have a few alcoholics among us and it's good to hear their perspective, it adds a lot to this forum.
naive