I wouldn't want the responsibility of an addict getting clean for me. They need to do it for themselves if they have any hope to succeed. He isn't there. Bargaining, blackmailing, threatening, causing drama will NOT get him into recovery. In fact, it may work against what you want for him. You can only control YOU and do the things that will get you what YOU need and that is a healthy relationship. He can't give it to you in his current state. The addiction is his main priority. And even in recovery, that becomes their main priority. You will always be down on the list. That isn't to say he doesn't love you but so what if he does. He can't show you that love or give it to you in any way as long as he is using. Meanwhile you are giving more and more of yourself but for what? Crumbs of love? Don't you deserve the whole meal?
