I hear ya, Naive.
It's my favorite coping/uncoping mechanism kicking in: denial.
But I also think I have a point: he wants me to accept who he is when he's loaded; except - who he is when he's loaded isn't him! It's the saturated-brain-cell him, but not the him when he's unsaturated! If he could accept himself, the way he is, then I don't think he would have to drink: it's because he CAN'T accept the real him that he drinks...do you know what I mean?!?!?